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What do children have that adults lose?

by Cynthia Cox on 07/23/10

Believe, Hope, Faith, Innocence, Sharing and Actions

What are the ingredients that make up the simplicity of being a child? If I had to classify the youth...it would be with the words: Believe, Hope, Faith, Innocence, Sharing and Actions. Why do I choose these words?

Children believe in life when adults refuse to believe in the unknown. Adults have to be given facts, figures, statistics, logical being and existence. If it can happen, an adult has to dissect it to the core to find out the reasons of:why, how, what, where and when. It's all about obtainable results that are favorable to our professional and personal lives.

Children believe in hope of life. The magical unseen element of human feel good that the eyes cannot visually portray but the mind feels the good vibes of hope. Where do adults loose that hope in our journey? What circumstances impact an adult to forget the simple joys of the invisible hope? It is a lost childhood trait that allows a child to be friends with anyone no matter their gender, their race, fear of persecution or public humiliation. Adults limit their lives and lifestyles because they loose hope in themselves and others.

Faith is a child's best protector and guidance in life. A child can take the worst of circumstances and take this bad to make it good. Faith is a gift that adults tend to abuse. It's the forgotten state of mind that says YES...all people are worth the effort; that FREE and GOOD INTENTIONS do still live on. Faith doesn't present prejudice to eyes of a child or lies about faith; adults bring this deception to children!!! No adult ever looses faith unless we choose to allow our circumstances to do it to us!

Innocence is the humanity that children possess. They have the ability to believe in the best and the worst of people around them. It is creating that dream and following through with it. It is grabbing the hand of their best friend and sharing the greatest adventures possible to light up memories for themselves and those around them. Innocence does not provoke fear with in a child. Innocence will not abuse a child. Innocence is a gift that every adult human has in their heart if they are only willing to reach deep enough in their soul to touch the truth of their life. Innocence never leaves anyone, but circumstances will make us believe otherwise and adults will lie about it.

My favorite that children do so proudly is sharing with actions. A child has no hidden motive when they communicate with one another or when they find things to occupy their times. Yeah, sometimes, it would seem otherwise when it is to make someone laugh or perhaps pull a harmless prank. But a child will share through their actions and in two seconds, they fight and make-up or hug and laugh. Adults carry ice cubes in their pockets when they have been wronged. They never forget. Children forgive and continue to go on in sharing of actions. Why can't adults do this?

As adult parents or guardians in our professional and personal lives; we have more to learn about our own selves and the contributions that we really give back to others in these lessons from children. It is not with our biological ages or our educational and professional accomplishments or even public notoriety that make us somebody special or even qualified to call ourselves adults.

Honestly, the way I view adults are in these very elements of a child.I do believe when I should not. I do hope in others when they give me no reason too. I do have faith of a mustard seed that if you dream it and are willing to work for it and through it; dreams do come true. I do see innocence in the best and worst of all human beings but I can't make no one believe this about themselves. Most importantly, I believe that sharing through actions will create and move miracles of humanity when there seems to be no logical, statistical or rational way to do it.

I have a plan that I would love to put in motion and have secretly wanted to for most of my adult life. "The I in Me" is the beginning of actions that I would like to seek out in our area. It's not just a book that people will read and critique; it's more than that. It's a way to get people to talk about things that we most haved secretly lived, survived and spoken of in silence in our own corner of the world. I see a bigger mission calling in releasing this book. It is using words to become actions of change and to help others.

Here is the synopsis of this plan. We have many adult child abuse survivors in our great state of West Virginia. There are no local resources that cater to providing support for adult child abuse survivors. I would like to find those who are interested in helping to create Adult Child Abuse Survivors Support Groups at different host locations.

Our 55 counties of West Virginia are diverse and each deserve catering to their needs. But our people are worth it. Compassion, genuine caring, devotion, education, locations and time is some of the brainstorming of requirements for these support groups.

Businesses who can help offer services to child abuse survivors are welcomed to get on board as well. Churches that will provide host locations are welcome to get on board. Adults, parents, and guardians who would like to get involved, please let me know. This is for the citizens...by the citizens attempt. It's not a state or federal funded attempt at monies or a non-profit charter. This is about adults who suffered as children and would like to connect with others in our state as support for one another and promote change from within.

I can give you a million reasons why I would like to seek support from other survivors. From all those I have talked to and to the many more who struggle in silence, is only one reason. It's time to come out of the closets and pull the truth out from under the rugs; if you want change and are willing to work for it; for yourselves and more importantly those around you and our children; this may be an avenue for you to pursue.

I don't know of any support groups for Adult Child Abuse Survivors in West Virginia. If you do, please let me know. My intention is to get these support meetings started. If you are truly interested in creating a better West Virginia for our adults and our children; please let me know. Email me at facebook, reply to this note or email me at: www.authorcynthiacox.com . Think like a child but be willing to work like an adult, this is the focus:)

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To Blog or Not To Blog Is The Question

by Cynthia Cox on 06/18/10

I spend about 3 hours a day, at least, dedicated in writing content. It doesn't matter to me if it is a day of recollection writing or making progression in my first novel or making sense of the things gone wrong in the world; I am pecking and writing away.

I have contemplated giving up all forms of blogging, sharing even conversations online to devote the education and time needed in my writing that I should be doing if I ever expect to become profitable, but I can not.

All of my life, I have always put others first even in writing. The years that I lost in creating content for occupations, employee promotions and educational content for my previous occupations has really taken years away literally in my writing. I do not regret the years that I spent doing what I enjoy. I love writing and offering education of even the simpliest forms and styles. I feel as if my writing is a contribution to society and my life's circumstances to understand things that I had no control over in my youth reaped the best forms of therapy that I could find.

Writing and reflections of my life represent what a mirror will never show me about myself. It allows a first, second or third person view on who and what I am. No one needs to tell me anything about me that I don't already know. Writing has always been my best friend when there was no one in the world that even knew I existed. Through time, learning and growing; I have come to share my best with very close friends of me...and this writing will comfort me as these loved ones pass on in life.

So of course, I answered my own question; NO, I will not continue blogging or carrying on conversations on the Internet with interesting peoples that I have met or checking the daily facebook of my friends and family well being. But I have learned to juggle the act a little more to allow time to progress and time to say Hello.

So far, so good. I think this writing thing; is going to work out beautifully:) I know that writing will allow me to share my friends and our happy memories forever in my future novels and the many years of writing I have ahead. Bring it on Webster~This gal is ready!

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Words Are The Last Memory

by Cynthia Cox on 05/14/10

I often words as the only conversations that I have within that I just can't seem to verbalize sometimes.

There is comfort that I seek out in the sound of my pen sailing on paper or the pecking of a keyboard. I have felt my tears dry with the embracing of words. I have felt my inner happiness explode with the joy I find in abusing and using words. I do it constructively to help others.

There has been times that I have released profanity upon paper but I never knew whether to trash it or kick my self in the derriere for writing such a release of non-sense. It's one thing to say it and it be gone within that second but to write it on paper it seems to last longer.

I try to relay to my 13 year old daughter how important words can be in our lives.

The tones we use in our conversation and written content can make or break friendships, relationships and the thought processing of never ending because something was not clear enough in the message. Words are truly the first and last thing that a person notices about you.

It doesn't matter if your actions were a saint, just take one wrong word phrase and you'll be doomed. It's amazing to me that writing, words, vocabulary have the power to build the bridges of humanity but yet, no one does it.

I can watch TV or go to the local community and hear the word MONEY~before I hear anything else. It's as if words are accountable to no one until someone slips up and it brings trouble. I just don't get it.

I have a tendency to write dark or less than bright light writing.I have never written anything of genius content just relate able messages that most in life can walk in. I always try to encourage, enlighten and leave a message of hope instilled in all that I do write. Sometimes, reader feedback has shocked me about how something was interpreted that I wrote; so next to vision; words is the greatest asset we have to verbalize and print our communications.

I hope other writers use their gift to enhance life. Words can be a great break for those who read or even to comfort survivors. What ever you choose to do with your words, do it wisely; it may just be the last thing you are remembered for~

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